When an intimate relationship ends, but you’re not the one who wanted out, it can feel downright devastating. Emotions start swirling around your brain and you fluctuate between bouts of tearfulness and anger or jealousy. It can be almost as though someone else has inhabited your head, filling your mind with irrational thoughts of self-blame and triggering feelings of insecurity that you didn’t know you had.
are a fruitful source of inspiration for myriad songs, books, and movies
because everyone has had the opportunity at some point in life to relate to
those painful feelings of loss and disappointment. Fortunately, most of us eventually
get over the break-up and move on.
heard the saying, “It takes 2 to tango,” and it really does. When you’re
working harder on the relationship than your partner, it’s pretty much a sign
of eventual doom. But sometimes, it just feels more comfortable to keep your
head in the sand than to deal with the anxiety and fear about what’s really
going on. I understand. I’ve been there too.
relationship isn’t right for one person, it’s not right for either of them.
Nonetheless, it can hurt to hear words like:
As hard as it is to admit it’s over, the healthiest thing you can do is accept the truth, acknowledge how you feel, spend some time licking your wounds, and then move forward with dignity. I understand this can be a little easier said than done, but I know it’s very possible to get over a heartbreak.
rather than taking the time to process the relationship loss, a lot of people
get caught up in doing things that keep them stuck in a negative mindset.
Here are 4 things to stop doing so you don’t make yourself more miserable:
question that break-ups can be the pits. It can cause you to question yourself
on so many levels: your attractiveness, behaviors, intellect, thoughts, and
worthiness. However, when a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean there is something
wrong with you—although it can feel like that. Rather, it’s just that what you
bring to the relationship table simply isn’t the best fit for the other person.
It does not mean you’re deficient in any way.
time taking care of yourself, stay away from destructive behaviors and thoughts,
and keep your integrity intact so you can move forward even stronger.
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