When you’re emotionally stuck in a bad place, it can be hard to even imagine loving yourself. Depression, darkness, and despair often feel like a hole you can’t climb out of. Many years ago, my depression was so awful, I wanted my life to be over and occasionally imagined a semi-truck taking me out on the highway so I could be free from the pain that felt like it was destroying me inside.
While I am very grateful that never actually happened, I learned that I was not alone with such thoughts when I interviewed Dr. Riva Robinson, who is a functional medicine physician and champion bodybuilder. Though our traumatic histories were somewhat different, we suffered a similar kind of response to them for many years.
Anyone who looked at us from the outside would likely not guess what was going on in our hearts and our minds:
Now don’t misunderstand me—there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being motivated and wanting to do things really well. But let me ask you this:
If you fail at an important objective or goal, which way do you respond—A or B?
My guess is that many people would answer “A”. Why? Because I have been there. Dr. Robinson has been there, and so have millions of other people with traumatic histories that ultimately manifested as negative and toxic thoughts about themselves.
When you feel sad or bad inside, you’re vulnerable to being your own worst critic, which of course does not help you in any way. But there are ways to stop the cycle of toxic thoughts that can rule your mind and lead to those dark despairing feelings at times.
Here are 5 things you can do to diminish toxic thinking:
Each thing you do to work through and manage toxic thoughts helps your mind become more disciplined so they don’t continue to control you!
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