This is a heavy
topic, but I believe it’s very important to talk openly about it.
adulthood, almost everyone has known—or known of—someone who has taken their
own life. For most people, it’s hard to imagine what might lead a person to make
that choice, and yet it happens all too often. Suicide is actually the 10th leading
cause of death in the U.S. In 2020, nearly 45,000 people in this country ended
their lives that way.
Sadly, the ongoing
challenges of 2021 may make that number go even higher.
Some of the primary
underpinnings of these painful endings have to do with the negative stories we
tell ourselves about our lives, worthiness, character, and lovability, which in
turn dictate our beliefs and behavior on many levels. When those stories tend
to be agonizing and sad, it can be very difficult to see the goodness in
ourselves. For some people, suicide may feel like the only way out of their
I understand this well because I used to have a very negative and distorted narrative about myself. There was a time in my past when I felt like I had turned my life into a complete train wreck. I was so depressed I prayed that God would take me because I couldn’t find a way to escape my own pain.
ever felt that way?
Prolonged hopelessness is a very dark and lonely place. I’m so grateful someone was there to help me through that time of despair. Yet, I know not everyone has a helping hand to reach out to. Fortunately, one of our truly special psychiatrists at Amen Clinics, Dr. Daniel Emina, has co-authored an incredibly insightful book entitled, The Suicide Solution, (coming out September 14, 2021).
book, one of the topics discussed at length is the false stories—”narrative
ruts”—that we repeatedly tell ourselves. These stem from malfunctions in our brain’s
hardware (biology) and software (psychological processes), as explained in the
“These narrative ruts, produced by our ‘bugged’ hardware and
software in tandem, have the effect of turning the strong protective mechanisms
we use to defend ourselves against outside threats onto ourselves—like a
soldier pointing his gun at his own head instead of the enemy. And so…
factors that lead to suicidal thoughts and behavior are thoroughly articulated
throughout this book. But even more important, The Suicide Solution also
provides detailed strategies and steps for helping to heal the pain that can otherwise
lead a person to that place of no return.
So, if you’re
suffering with painful thoughts about the value of your life—or know someone
who is—I urge you to read this book ASAP. Not only will the information give
you a much better understanding about this topic, but it will also engender great
hope for shifting your personal narrative away from a place of darkness to one
that shines a light on the amazing, loving, and beautiful human being that you
For more inspiration, order my newest book, The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child: How Persistence, Grit, and Faith Created a Reluctant Healer.
Suicide Solution by Daniel Emina, MD, and Rick Lawrence offers hope and a
practical toolbox for people who are struggling to find their way out of a cave
of anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts—and for anyone who cares for
someone who’s been lost in that cave. Informed by the clinical realities of
anxiety, depression, and suicide, the authors draw from the transformational
relational strategies of Jesus to chart a path into life and freedom.
Pre-Order “The Suicide Solution” Here